Wholehearted Living
A year of Wholehearted Leadership Development: high-touch, personal support at the intersection of medicine, relational science, spiritual formation, and leadership, held by John Moos, MD.
Begin the conversationWhen separated from the big picture, people get small and territorial.
This program exists because the reverse is also true.
Who this work is for
Becoming Love is for anyone ready to grow in how they live, love, and lead. Some people carry their impact in a boardroom, and many more carry it at a kitchen table, in a friendship others lean on, or in the life of a community. Small or large, local or global, that impact is real, and it deepens as the person carrying it becomes more whole.
It is offered to a small number of people each year who are ready to commit to a full year of focused, personal work. The client may be a single person, a family, or an organization, and the depth of care, the access, and the commitment are the same in each case. What changes is who is in the room and what the work holds together.
A person
Someone at a turning point in life, love, work, or purpose, ready to move through what has been quietly shaping their choices and their relationships.
A family
A family system as the client, where the work attends to the relationships between its members as carefully as to each person within it.
An organization
A company, nonprofit, team, or community group as the client, where personal patterns and the culture they shape are worked with together.
One relationship, five disciplines
Most people seeking this kind of change assemble it piece by piece, with a physician in one place, a therapist in another, a coach for their work, and perhaps a spiritual director for the questions that remain. Becoming Love brings these disciplines into a single relationship, so that nothing has to be translated between them and nothing falls through the space in between.
Relational and emotional science
Gottman-level couples and attachment work, so that the patterns between people receive as much care as the patterns within them.
Psychotherapeutic and integrative practice
Trauma-informed and somatic work that meets what the body is holding, not only what the mind is able to name.
Spiritual counseling and formation
Non-denominational counseling grounded in theology and intercultural study, building bridges between faith and secular worldviews and open to believer and skeptic alike.
Concierge medicine
Direct access to a physician trained in trauma surgery, who understands the body as part of every story.
Leadership and life direction
Transformational work on yourself that deepens your impact in every part of life, from the personal and interpersonal to family, community, and work.
How the work unfolds
The year is shaped around you. In the first sessions you name the three or four areas of life that deserve real depth, and together you and Dr. Moos create a road map that defines the path and tracks progress as the year unfolds.
A living process
Each session draws on the Becoming Love methodology, a six-part process returned to in whole or in part as the subject in front of you calls for it, so that what is understood can also be felt, lived, and carried forward.
A library of resources
A body of resources developed for this work is drawn on whenever the subject calls for it, from clarifying values and tracing patterns to strengthening the relationships that matter most.
Progress you can see
Progress is tracked together on a living map. It holds no scores or diagnoses. It reflects what is well resourced in your life and where time and attention will help most.
Love that reaches outward
The work begins with the self and reaches outward to the people in your life and to the wider world, because none of us is the center of the universe. Each of us is part of a greater whole, held in love of self, of others, and of creation.
The rhythm of a year
The engagement unfolds over twelve months, with a steady rhythm that leaves room for real life. Everything is held solely by Dr. Moos, with undivided attention for the full year.
Each month
Two sessions of about three hours each, by remote video or at Dr. Moos's office in Venice. The first session of the year is longer, giving time to build the road map, and the last is longer as well, bookending the year.
Each quarter
A Quarterly Intensive of about eight hours, held in person at a place agreed on together, with room for a partner or a small group when the work would benefit.
When it matters
Support for the acute or unexpected moments, such as finding the right words before a hard conversation, a reframe when a situation turns, or help moving through a real conflict. This is support when it counts rather than a standing call schedule.
Across the year
Dates and logistics are mapped well in advance so this relationship holds its place in your calendar, with occasional sessions with a spouse or family members when they would help.
At the year's close
Consolidation of what has been learned, a review of the year's arc, and a plan for carrying the work forward.
Core
Held for up to five clients each year
- Two monthly sessions of about three hours each
- Remote video or Dr. Moos's office in Venice
- A longer first and final session to open and close the year
- A Quarterly Intensive of about eight hours, in person
- Room at each intensive for a partner or small group
- Support when something urgent or unexpected arises
- Family sessions when they would help
- Priority scheduling, mapped well in advance
Elite
Held for no more than two clients each year
- Everything included in Core
- Monthly sessions held in person, with Dr. Moos traveling to you
- Travel included in the engagement
- Two consecutive days each month for clients more than a three-hour flight away
- Quarterly Intensive held separately or folded into a visit
Each is a twelve-month commitment, with flexible ways to pay. A family or an organization occupies one place, just as an individual does, with the same time, support, and investment. When a family or organization calls for a greater scope of care, Dr. Moos shapes a custom proposal around what is being asked.
John Moos, MD
Dr. Moos is a physician, educator, coach, facilitator, and theologian-in-formation. His work began in high-intensity trauma care at USC and LA County, close to the moments when lives are saved and lost, helping people heal and building the teams and systems that care for them.
Through that work, and through the hardest seasons of his own life, he came to see how much of the suffering he was treating had begun long before anyone reached his table. He felt called to set down the scalpel and find a new way to heal, and he founded Soul Surgeon on a simple conviction: heal it before it happens.
Since then he has facilitated more than a thousand healing journeys and more than ten thousand hours of relational, trauma-informed work, deepened through training with the Gottman Institute, Hakomi, the Hoffman Institute, Internal Family Systems, and Gabor Maté. He holds wisdom learned through education and wisdom earned through living it as equals in how he serves.
He is completing a Master's in Theology and Intercultural Studies at Asbury Theological Seminary, a resource he is building to hold more of each person's journey, whatever their beliefs. Much of that study centers on building bridges between experiences and worldviews, religious and secular alike, so that connection can be nurtured and grown and our shared humanity felt more fully. He sees himself as a connector, helping each person build the inner and outer resources a whole life asks for.
In his own words
Dr. Moos writes about love, healing, and what it means to belong to something larger than ourselves.
Healing isn’t an event; it’s an environment.
Becoming love is the practice of receiving and offering grace without condition.
… when healing the individuals that make up a system, you are creating a unit that is greater than the sum of its parts.
You were not born to be a machine. You were born to become something only you can become.
What the research shows
Professional coaching has a documented effect on the lives of the people who engage in it. Coaching is only one of the five disciplines Becoming Love integrates, so these findings describe a baseline rather than a ceiling.
International Coaching Federation, Global Coaching Client Study, 2009.
In their words
I cannot express strongly enough the value my family and I have found in this approach.
John holds space in a way that is rare and reverent.
It felt like a weight had been lifted off our shoulders.
John embodies and creates the conditions that let love and light shine.
Other ways to begin
Not everyone is looking for a full year. Dr. Moos is developing a set of shorter coaching and facilitation offerings for people who would like to begin with something more contained. These are taking shape now, and the details are shared in conversation.
Single-session intensive
One three-hour session, in person or remote, for someone who wants depth without an annual commitment.
In development. Inquire to learn more.
Multi-day intensive
Two consecutive days of individual work, roughly ten to twelve hours in all, for a concentrated season of focus.
In development. Inquire to learn more.
Mastermind cohort
A six-month group of no more than eight people, meeting monthly for ninety minutes and gathering once in person for a two-day retreat.
In development. Inquire to learn more.
Held in confidence
Every relationship is held in confidence, with discretion running in both directions, and fit is established together in conversation before anything begins. Client information and session content are never used to train any AI model.
This is an invitation.
The next step is a conversation, to discern together whether this work is right for you, your family, or your organization.
Begin the conversation
A year of Wholehearted Leadership Development with John Moos, MD. Bringing medicine, relational science, spiritual formation, and leadership into one
high-touch relationship.
John Moos MD, founder of Soul Surgeon
Wholehearted Living.
When separated from the big picture, people get small and territorial.
This program exists because the reverse is also true.
Who This Work is For.
Becoming Love is for anyone ready to grow in how they live, love, and lead. Some people carry their impact in a boardroom, and many more carry it at a kitchen table, in a friendship others lean on, or in the life of a community. Small or large, local or global, that impact is real, and it deepens as the person carrying it becomes more whole.
It is offered to a small number of people each year who are ready to commit to a full year of focused, personal work. The client may be a single person, a family, or an organization, and the depth of care, the access, and the commitment are the same in each case. What changes is who is in the room and what the work holds together.
A Person
Someone at a turning point in life, love, work, or purpose, ready to move through what has been quietly shaping their choices and their relationships.
A Family
A family system as the client, where the work attends to the relation-ships between its members as carefully as to each person within it.
A Company
A company, nonprofit, team, or community group as the client, where personal patterns and the culture they shape are worked with together.
One relationship, five disciplines.
Most people seeking this kind of change assemble it piece by piece, with a physician in one place, a therapist in another, a coach for their work, and perhaps a spiritual director for the questions that remain. Becoming Love brings these disciplines into a single relationship, so that nothing has to be translated between them and nothing falls through the space in between.
Relational and Emotional Science
Gottman-level couples and attachment work so that the patterns between people receive as much care as the patterns within them.
Psychotherapeutic and Integrative Practice
Trauma-informed and somatic work that meets what the body is holding, not only what the mind is able to name.
Spiritual counseling and Formation
Non-denominational counseling grounded in theology and intercultural study; building bridges between faith and secular worldviews. Open to believer and skeptic alike.
Concierge Medicine
Direct access to a physician trained in trauma surgery who understands the body as part of every story.
Leadership and Life Direction
Transformational work on yourself that deepens your impact in every part of life; from the personal and interpersonal to family, community, and work.
How the Work Unfolds
A Living Process
Each session draws on the Becoming Love methodology; a six-part process returned to in whole or in part as the subject in front of you calls for it. Thus allowing what is understood to be felt, lived and carried forward.
Progress You Can See
Progress is tracked together on a living map. It holds no scores or diagnoses. It reflects what is well-resourced in your life and where time and attention will help most.
The year is shaped around you. In the first session, you name the three or four areas of life that deserve real depth. Together, you and Dr. Moos create a roadmap that defines the path and tracks progress as the year unfolds.
A Library of Resources
A body of resources developed for this work is drawn on whenever the subject calls for it. From clarifying values and tracing patterns to strengthening the relationships that matter the most.
Love That Reaches Outward
None of us is the center of the universe, therefore the work begins with the self and reaches outward to the people in your life then to the wider world. Each of us is part of a greater whole, held in love of self, of others and of creation.
The Rhythm of a Year
Each Month
Two sessions of about three hours each by remote video or at Dr. Moos’s office in Venice. The first session of the year is longer, giving time to build the road map and bookended by another long session at the end.
When It Matters
Support for the acute or unexpected moments, such as finding the right words before a hard conversation, a reframe when the situation turns, or help moving through a real conflict. This is the support when it counts rather than a standing call schedule.
At the Year’s Close
Consolidation of what has been learned, a review of the year’s arc, and a plan for carrying the work forward.
The engagement unfolds over twelve months with a steady rhythm that leaves room for real life. Everything is held solely by Dr. Moos with undivided attention for the full year.
Each Quarter
A Quarter Intensive of about eight hours, held in person at a place agreed upon together with room for a partner or a small group when the work would benefit.
Across the Year
Dates and logistics are mapped out well in advance so this relationship holds its place in your calendar, with occasional sessions with a spouse or family members when they would help.
Core
Held for up to five clients each year
- Two monthly sessions of about three hours each
- Remote video or Dr. Moos's office in Venice
- A longer first and final session to open and close the year
- A Quarterly Intensive of about eight hours, in person
- Room at each intensive for a partner or small group
- Support when something urgent or unexpected arises
- Family sessions when they would help
- Priority scheduling, mapped well in advance
Elite
Held for no more than two clients each year
- Everything included in Core
- Monthly sessions held in person, with Dr. Moos traveling to you
- Travel included in the engagement
- Two consecutive days each month for clients more than a three-hour flight away
- Quarterly Intensive held separately or folded into a visit
Each is a twelve-month commitment, with flexible ways to pay. A family or an organization occupies one place, just as an individual does, with the same time, support, and investment. When a family or organization calls for a greater scope of care, Dr. Moos shapes a custom proposal around what is being asked.
